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Monday
Sep122011

Remembering

My daughter was only two on that ugly day, ten years ago.  I remember how I had a hard time tearing myself away from watching the news.  But I had an even stronger desire to protect her from knowing of, and fearing such evil.  So the news had to wait until she was sleeping.    I was pregnant with my son when the U.S. struck Iraq, the second time.  I remember watching the news again, and how sad I felt, that he would be born into a country at war.  He's seven now and his country has been at war for his entire life.  He has no idea- and that's intentional.  We don't listen to or watch the news in front of our kids and we don't talk about it in front of them.

It's impossible to protect then forever though.  My daughter, now twelve, has been hearing bits and pieces about 9/11 for years now.  With the anniversary, she was hearing even more. My son still seems blissfully unaware.   I didn't want her to be fearful or develop false ideas. I wanted to let her know what it was about,  without sharing too much, and without her seeing some of the more graphic images.  She watched this excellent video for kids, and then we talked about it.  I realized how mature she's grown lately in her thinking.  I'm proud of her.  But it's still hard.  I felt like we said goodbye to a little bit more of her childhood.

I took these photos last night, walking around downtown Kirkland with my husband.  The flags were a memorial to the victims of 9/11.  There were nearly 3,000 of them.  They were everywhere.  It was sobering and yet very beautiful.

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Reader Comments (5)

My daughter is 15 and is learning the details of 9-11 for the first time. We both felt it was important for her to be able to understand the complex history between the US and the Middle East before learning more.
We went to our town's 9-11 ceremony yesterday and the efforts to blend church and state and unhealthy kind of nationalism portrayed there scared us both, so we left.
Today I've found a better way to reflect by listening to This American Life's program: 10 Years In. I love how Ira Glass introduced the program, "9-11 happened to us, but how we reacted and what we've done as a nation since then has been our choice. That's what we are focusing on today."
Interestingly enough, many of the family members of victims of 9-11 that he interviewed said they don't like the phrase Never Forget or the large memorial ceremonies because for them healing and being able to move on with their lives does involve forgetting on some level.
A weighty topic, for sure.

September 12, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTara

i did love seeing all the flags displayed no matter where we went this weekend. kirkland did well.

September 12, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterdenise

People in our time do not seem to protect their children from the harsh and ugly things in our world. Whether they do this because of their philosophy, or (more likely) out of thoughtless and irresponsible lack of thought - I guess it depends. There are books and books about this - about the vanishing of childhood as a concept, about people actually pushing their children into the grown-up world, ostensibly because the parents quickly tire of the novelty of being responsible for the raising and development of a children. Maybe the charm wears off for many parents about the same time it does for tiny siblings: the moment a child becomes ambulatory, and so worlds less convenient and more disruptive of the smooth flow in the household. Children are dressed like adults, allowed to watch television shows that are adolescent in their best moments, expected to feed themselves and fulfill their parents' own dreams. It's horrifying. And we've talked about this before. It's one of the reasons I find you so dear - that you do think, and think well, and that your children are more important to you than the world is - than fashion or design or free time or whatever. That makes you precious.

September 12, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterK

Tara, I love listening to This American Life. I'll have to look for that episode. I'm sorry that the ceremony you went to wasn't a good experience. I have a problem with the "never forget" slogan too. It sounds too close to "never forgive".
Kristen- Thank you. I'd love to get your advice sometime, about when/how to allow some of the more mature elements of culture into children's lives. It's not as black and white anymore, now that I have a 12yo. I often question these things. Book suggestions are welcome. :)

September 12, 2011 | Registered CommenterDawn

We should have a long email conversation about it, Dawn. As always, when we are raising children, the complexities are amazing. I'll be home again next week. And it should only take me three or four days of solid sleep to find some energy again - -

September 14, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterK

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