Random musings on family
Sunday, January 15, 2012 at 10:58AM 
1.14.12
We went to a beautiful wedding yesterday. I love weddings. At least I love the kind of weddings that I've been to lately. They're such a great reminder of what's really important. I love the ceremony, the tradition, the romance, the music, the food. And yes, I love getting dressed up and seeing other people do the same.
My 12 y.o. daughter wore her first pair of high heels. I do think that it is a milestone. I warned her, they'd hurt. She didn't believe me. She said that if she was tough enough to wear pointe shoes, that heels would be no problem. Well she admitted at the end of the evening that yes, they do hurt! She's her mother's daughter though, much as she's loth to admit. She loved wearing them, in spite of the pain. Oh, how I love this girl of mine.
Weddings get me thinking about family, about what I want for my own family's future. I want to be the kind of mom who still talks to her kids several times a week after they leave home. I want to be friends with them as adults. I want them to love coming home to visit. I want to have frequent, large extended family gatherings, full of laughter, hugs, fun and delicious food.
Reader Comments (7)
yes. yes. and yes. i wonder frequently about who my kids will marry. i am secretly hoping to be able to watch my grandchildren like for weekends at a time. if we are still living here, there will even be a playroom - just for them! in the meantime, one day at a time :)
p.s. - love your outfit. everyting too.
You have such a lovely family :-) And how nice you all look! Twelve is such a sweet age, isn't it? Innocent and yet exploring femininity (um, I'm sure I spelled that wrong!) I would love to blog about it, I wonder if my daughter would let me.
I love weddings too - all that romance and happiness. Basically, I love any family gathering. I am the only sentimentalist in my large family, though :-) I'd love to be the sort of mother you describe, but I'm not sure if that will happen. Like Denise, I imagine what life might be like once my daughter is grown up and (hopefully) married. I have a great time thinking about it sometimes :-)
Thank you Sarah and Denise. Yes, the grandkids are something I like to think about too, if that happens. I hope so. ; )
Let me tell you from experience Dawn, if you are the kind of Mom who speaks openly and honestly to her children and cultivates a certain respect, (not to be confused with friendship yet still the one on their side) then when they are older they'll call and will come, they will WANT to be with you and seek your counsel and just love being with you. The friendship comes when they are grown and what a blessing it is! You are on your way.
Michelle is so right. Plain dealing and love. Listening whenever they talk. Feeling what they feel, but from the position of wisdom. And what a treat for her - her first heels. I can almost feel it myself - the thrill of that first time. And the reality of the pinch. All glorious. The family is lovely. And you are its heart.
Thank you Kristen and Michelle. I really do look to both of your families as inspiration for what I want in my future. I know that both of you still have wonderful relationships with your grown children. I respect your advice and treasure it because I know you know what you're talking about.