Trent and I are getting to spend a lot of time together lately. Just the two of us. This is rare. He's usually never short on neighborhood friends to play with, but it just so happened that they're all gone this week. He almost doesn't seem to know how to play independently anymore. I know he can, but that skill is just buried kind of deep right now. Friends are a blessing, but I also don't think it's a bad idea to know how to be alone too.
My son usually opts out running errands with me, in favor of staying at home with his sister. But she's now gone too, at ballet all day. This means that he has no other choice but to come along with me. He's great fun to have along, but he's also squirrelly a normal eight year old boy. I'm currently drinking an iced coffee at eight pm, in an attempt to stay awake until ten. It has all been a bit more of a challenge than I'm accustomed to- all the non-stop questions! Those questions mean that learning is happening though, so I try to be patient. We have been to Ikea, grocery shopping, the hardware store, and the dentist- together. He learned how to make mac n' cheese this week, he helped me with the gardening and the laundry, and he also helped me put together the Ikea furniture we bought.
These everyday living sorts of tasks are something that I've realized that he's been missing out on. He's usually either playing or busy with an organized activity such as school and/or lessons. It's easier for me to do my chores without him- and I can, so I have. I never had that option with my daughter, who's my oldest and who's been mostly homeschooled. She was learning though, while she accompanied me on my chores throughout the day- both practical skills and the application to real life of academic skills like math, reading, even science. I guess I just see the need to be more intentional about doing the same for my son, bringing him alongside me as I go about my chores, so that he too can learn, even if does require more effort from me. We'll have plenty of opportunity come this fall, when he begins homeschooling.
We will still make playtime a priority though. I'm all about having lots of time for friends and play. This week we've been playing at the beach!