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Thursday
Jul122012

learning from everyday chores

  

Trent and I are getting to spend a lot of time together lately.  Just the two of us.  This is rare.  He's usually never short on neighborhood friends to play with, but it just so happened that they're all gone this week.  He almost doesn't seem to know how to play independently anymore.  I know he can, but that skill is just buried kind of deep right now.  Friends are a blessing, but I also don't think it's a bad idea to know how to be alone too. 

My son usually opts out running errands with me, in favor of staying at home with his sister. But she's now gone too, at ballet all day.  This means that he has no other choice but to come along with me.  He's great fun to have along, but he's also squirrelly a normal eight year old boy.  I'm currently drinking an iced coffee at eight pm, in an attempt to stay awake until ten.  It has all been a bit more of a challenge than I'm accustomed to- all the non-stop questions!  Those questions mean that learning is happening though, so I try to be patient.  We have been to Ikea, grocery shopping, the hardware store, and the dentist- together.  He learned how to make mac n' cheese this week, he helped me with the gardening and the laundry, and he also helped me put together the Ikea furniture we bought. 

These everyday living sorts of tasks are something that I've realized that he's been missing out on.  He's usually either playing or busy with an organized activity such as school and/or lessons.  It's easier for me to do my chores without him- and I can, so I have.  I never had that option with my daughter, who's my oldest and who's been mostly homeschooled.  She was learning though, while she accompanied me on my chores throughout the day- both practical skills and the application to real life of academic skills like math, reading, even science.  I guess I just see the need to be more intentional about doing the same for my son, bringing him alongside me as I go about my chores, so that he too can learn, even if does require more effort from me.  We'll have plenty of opportunity come this fall, when he begins homeschooling. 

We will still make playtime a priority though.  I'm all about having lots of time for friends and play.  This week we've been playing at the beach!  

 

 

 

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Reader Comments (4)

how great to have the one on one time with him! Sounds like you are taking good advantage of it. Plus, who doesn't like a trip to Ikea :)

July 13, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterdenise

Life learning is the best! It always pains me to see kids who are book smart but unable to navigate the everyday. Glad you are able to mix it up and have fun!

July 13, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterTara

My mother, who was a wonderful person, did not deal well with having me around too much. She wanted me to learn to do chores, but i don't remember that she ever had me beside her, the two of us talking and me learning as I enjoyed her company. She tired of having to make me practice piano - which was a matter of me sitting alone in the living room at the piano, playing fairly boring elementary songs, so eventually gave up altogether and stopped my lessons. That didn't bother me then, but it does now. I think if she had been more like you, I would have gotten to know her better - and I'd have mellowed as a child, and I'd have learned to love the feel of the music in my hands. Boys are often let out of this kind of thing - the some-assembly-required aspects of daily life, and so never develop a firm sense of the real cost of life, beauty, comfort and safety. Too often, men simply expect those things as though God was in charge of dropping them into each lap - and as a result, expect their wives to be God - out of sight, but on the job. That makes for an immature husband who wears his wife out very quickly and leaves her life so sad. But Trent, learning the cost of things, and learning that responsibility for these things rests on all members of the family, will learn that sweet maturity, and your daughter-in-law, assuming he picks a decent one - will bless your name forever.

July 13, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterK

Kristen- Thank you for your encouragement. Just to be clear, I'm not there yet, on being the kind of mom I want to be. ; ) I'm just becoming more aware of a need.

July 14, 2012 | Registered CommenterDawn

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